"The decency of any society can be measured by how it treats its most vulnerable citizens."

Came across this quote as part of a story I was reading and it made me think about the current state of the world where bullying, especially cyber-bullying, is a pandemic of hate and torture of the most insidious kind. It attacks the heart, the soul and destroys those who need to be helped and protected against the morally, spiritually and emotionally empty.

Society as a whole is not at all social. Kids not even in their teens are driven to escape the only way they can see which is also the way which creates even more pain as it means that they have NO chance of ever being able to show just how wrong the scum bag bullies are about them. Lip service is paid to the media and no authority is wanting to take responsibility for their inaction which allowed the trauma to continue. I myself even as an adult suffered badly and I am a lucky one for I was able to see them for what they are and turn the tables. See into the emptiness of their souls and treat them like the nothing they ultimately are in the scheme of my life. That does drive them to even greater lengths to get to me but it is futile for I see it for what it is and will refuse to give them what they so desperately crave. Power over another's emotions.

Sadly many kids are unable to do so as it is a barrage combined with the natural need to be a part of things. To try and find your identity and place in society and fit in. Society is far from decent. People are neglecting the fact that humanity is made up if the word HUMAN. Lip service is paid but all the so-called education is futile when the ones committing this vile torture for their own amusement have no conscience at all and play the game until the next poor victim comes into their scopes.

Cyber-Bullying Suicide and Authorities Passing Buck

One thing I have noticed is when there is a case of cyber-bullying, especially when it leads to suicide, there is a passing of the buck by the schools involved or a knee-jerk response on the very wrongly named social network sites as they are far from social. I have seen time and time again where the school has said that there was no knowledge or proof of the bullying and yet the parents or the child would have contacted them so many times as well as proof on the sites that it was happening. The sites of course making spurious claims of dealing with such incidences quickly and decisively like the school. 

Question is though is why with all these so-called and invisible methods of dealing with the rampart and vile bullying on-line that the vile and pathetic morons who bully mercilessly via the keyboard are still able to do so even after so many reports outlining with proof the breaking of terms of service or the rules or conduct at schools? It is a constant on Facebook who made a knee-jerk response after the furor of the trolls attacking Amanda Todd, Rehtaeh Parsons and others yet I have seen pages on there, profiles, and groups dedicated to the cyber-bullying of others. I myself have been a constant victim and even though I tended to go after them as I eventually learned that to treat them like the nothings they truly are where they have no impact on you as they are really nothing in your life it gets disheartening when they are able to report you time and time again to get you banned or suspended and yet no matter what you do to show their bullying it is left to continue.

Reality is that it is numbers and advertising that the sites are interested in and for every one that is bullied it it the numbers of those who bully that they are interested in as 1 person leaving is nothing compared to 3, 5, 10 or more people who stay. Revenue. As for the schools where the students continue the campaign of vile abuse of the psychological, emotional and verbal kind they are not as bad but worse with their lack of actions and leaving the victim to the mercy of the bullies because of 'image'. Schools need to be held accountable legally as well as the sites even though the sites owners are getting around this via being in another country like Latvia as Ask.fm which is known for being a haven for cyber-bullying and the direct cause of allowing cyber-bullying to get to a stage where the victim has killed themselves to escape the barrage of vile taunts. 

There is a duty of care to the people who go to the schools or use sites which is ignored by the ones in charge, the ones whose duty is to enforce it and protect those in them. So why is it that it is often the perpetrators who are supported or left alone while the victims are left defenseless or be told they are responsible? There is a major imbalance between the rights of the victims and the rights of the perpetrators and the ones who sit by and allow the crimes to happen so freely and without consequence. 

Found out that I was going to be a father again after 18 years. Pretty excited. After a couple of weeks of hell at work with the kids I work with I'm finding that I'm much, much more grateful for the gift of my own kids. Have also realized that even if the kid I've worked with has had a rough trot in life it is no excuse for 99% of the things they do. It is no excuse for trying to destroy someone's career because they won't take any of their abuse. It is no excuse for trying to smash someones skull with a brick or destroy a house that is being paid for by taxpayers. The government departments need to see these kids and their abuse first hand. See what us carers, police and the community has to deal with.

Essence of Love

Being a parent is probably the closest way we can experience the way God loves. To love someone so purely, so totally, so unconditionally. To experience the love of all the real fathers throughout history as you hold your child for the first time. There is a connection in a spititual way with these men. And there is a spitiual connection with your child that is as close to God as we can get. It is through our children that we experience His love and it is loving our children with everything we are and hope to be that we are closest to Him.

Real Manhood

I learnt when I first held my son 17 years ago what the true essence of manhood was. It is gentleness, compassion. The truly great men in history, the ones who changed the world were like this. Jesus,Ghandi, Martin Luther King, Jr., were all men of peace yet had a profound effect on history. Even the great warriors realized that true strength lies in love. Yet the strength to defeat enemies was still there, if not more powerful as they fought to help others, protect and serve, rather than to force their power onto others.

First Time Jitters

First time and I don't know what I'm doing. I have a lot on in my mind and seem to be entering a new stage in my life where I'm doing things I have previously said I would never do. This being one of them. The question I ask myself is why do I find myself doing this? Rambling on into the internet. This should be interesting.